Cheer up, though. Spring is just around the corner, just a week away as of this writing. With the arrival of spring comes the arrival of admission decisions, good news, disappointing news, and limbo news. The good news, of course, comes in the form of happy “thumbs up,” welcoming you to some (or maybe even all) of your sought-after schools. The bad news, naturally, brings you thumbs down. Some of these southern-pointing thumbs can be terribly distressing, especially if you have rationalized a list of reasons extolling all the virtues your applications have trumpeted about yourself. Your detailed research may have revealed that you appear to be a perfect fit with past accepted applicants, as reported by those colleges of their Web sites. When you come face to face with the reality of rejection, many times it’s hard not to feel like you’ve had a punch in the stomach.
Perhaps the worst news you can get is the “limbo” news. This is the infamous waitlist letter (or email) that informs you that you’re neither in nor out. The college is saying, “We think you’re good enough to attend here but we’ll let you in only if enough of the others we’ve already admitted don’t show up and we have a slot for you.” Yuck. That big fat “if” condition puts you squarely on the road to Suspense City. What will happen? You have no idea. You cling to a tenuous shred of hope but know in your heart that a waitlisted applicant’s chances for ultimate admission are slim, indeed. Yes, some do get in but very few, if any, do. That’s the agony of the waitlist.
So, the metaphor of spring — a refreshing of life (warmer temps and “greening”) after a long season “repose” (frozen solid and buried in snow) — can apply to the world of college admissions. Hopefully, you seniors have planned your college applications according to the tried and true Reach-Ballpark-Safety formula that, if carefully plotted, will assure you at least some good news and you won’t be “frozen” out. But what if those thumbs down are in the majority?
You’ve waited months for your answers, and now they’re here . . . skinny envelopes and/or disappointing email notifications. Not the answers you wanted or even expected.
Getting a rejection (sometimes more euphemistically referred to as a “denial”) from a college or university doesn’t make you a bad person. Unfortunately, some high school seniors see themselves in a less-than-positive light when they read the bad news from their highly desired institution(s).
Dealing with rejection is difficult. Most high schoolers take rejection on a personal level. They seem to think that the letter or email from the admission office is really saying something like, “You are deficient and we don’t want to have anything to do with you.” Nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth is that often some rejected (denied) students could have done as well as those admitted applicants. This isn’t a rationalization or sour grapes. At schools where there are a significantly larger number of applications than available seats (schools whose acceptance rates are around 50 percent or less), there just isn’t room for all the qualified applicants. That’s why there is that so-called waitlist. A waitlist comprises a group of “in-betweeners,” not accepted but not rejected, that limbo state I mentioned above. As I also mentioned, these purgatory-assigned souls gain admission only if the number of enrollments doesn’t meet expectations for the incoming freshman class.
One famous dean of admission, the late Fred Hargadon of Princeton University, said that his institution received so many outstanding applications that he didn’t have the heart to send rejection letters. He noted that placing these fine young men and women on the waitlist was his way of saying, “We should have admitted you, but we didn’t have room.” This is the case with many good colleges. Every qualified applicant isn’t admitted.
If you are one of these denied or waitlisted applicants, take a little time to feel disappointed about not getting into your most-desired school(s). It’s perfectly natural to feel bad. Don’t dwell on it, though, and don’t develop an obsessive attitude about it. Don’t hate that school (or schools) forever. Don’t view successful candidates as elitist snobs. Accept the fact that you didn’t make the cut — for whatever reason — and get on with your life. Embrace those schools that have embraced you. Select the one that best suits your needs and finances and prepare to have a great higher-education experience. There is life after rejection.
On the other hand, can there be too much of a good thing? Sometimes.
You’re going to know shortly all the outcomes from your various applications. Maybe you already have some good news about your Early Action applications, which you submitted in November and got goods news from in December. Now, as you await your remaining decisions that will be forthcoming in the coming several weeks, you may be wondering, “Geez, what if I get into all the schools I applied to?” That’s a fair question and prudent food for thought.
Having a pile of acceptances from schools you would love to attend can pose a problem. It’s a happy problem, to be sure, but a difficult one, nonetheless.
Maybe you gained admission to your clear, first-choice college in December, through an EA application. Maybe, in your pile of acceptances, there is one that suits you perfectly, making all the others unnecessary. If so, no problem, assuming that you can manage the costs without going into too much student loan debt.
What should you do, though, if you have three or four acceptances and none is a clear
favorite? This happens more frequently than you might imagine. The solution to finding the
right one lies in doing some careful review and consultation with your family. If considerations such as location, student body size, program offerings, and reputation are all about equal (and you detect no truepreference stirring in your heart), then money has to be a major consideration. Financial aid packages usually arrive with the acceptance letters. Examine them carefully. Ignore the “sticker price” of the schools for a moment and go straight to the bottom line.
Which school’s offer puts the smallest drain on your family’s finances? Is there a clear winner
now? If there’s no other criterion for deciding, then money should help you decide. Don’t
forget that you can sometimes earn extra financial aid with just a phone call to the college’s
financial aid office and providing greater detail about your family’s financial situation. After you have satisfied yourself that you have the best possible package, then decide.
However, I must mention again the peril of too many student loans. Currently in America, the average student loan debt for graduating college seniors is hovering around $30,000. Think about how long it may take you to pay off that amount of money, assuming that you can find work that would allow you to budget a consistent and satisfactory monthly payment.
Remember, too, that you can make a quick visit between now and May 1, the traditional enrollment response deadline. Visits can sometimes sway the undecided. Please keep your parents involved in your decision. They maintain a large stake in your college education. Although most parents respect their child’s decision on college selection, they can provide valuable perspective for that decision.
No matter where you end up going to college, compliment yourself on an admission process well
done. And — one more time (have I mentioned this already?) — be careful about those student loans.
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