I'd like to share some observations that I've gathered over the decades about the relationship between parents and high schoolers who are involved in the college admissions process. That relationship can be productive, combative, enabling or ultimately disappointing. If you're the parent of a someday college applicant, perhaps these insights may be helpful.
In my work as an independent college admissions counselor, I've dealt with a lot of parents. They fall into two main groups: (1) so-called “helicopter" parents, and (2) “the uninitiated" -- those who know that the college process is a significant challenge but who also realize that they don't know much about it.