I wrote an article for College Confidential entitled Dealing with Rejection. In that attempt to explain how to deal with a negative admissions outcome, I said:
Dealing with rejection is difficult. Most high schoolers tend to take being turned down by a college or university on a personal level. They seem to think that the letter [or email these days] from the admissions office is really saying something like, “You are deficient and we don't want to have anything to do with you." Nothing could be further from the truth.